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March 14, 2005
Hey Lianne,
What's your advice on approaching a female without coming across that you want to pick them up? At work, sometimes, I noticed a few looking at me and sometimes, they noticed that I am looking at them. We don't work in the same department. It gets sorta awkward. How do I go say 'hi' to them without coming across as "hey, how u doing?" sorta way?
-- Anonymous Guy
It's great that you want to pursue women who seem interested in you, rather than going after someone who might be out of reach. Definitely go after the ones who give you a positive reaction regularly when you look at them -- a smile or a lingering glance. The next time you are near one of them, ask her a question or make a comment that pertains to the situation at hand. Be genuine and only say something if you mean it, and that way you won't feel stupid or come across as fake. For example, "How's your sandwich?" or "I like your ____, where'd you get it?" or, "This meeting is so boring!" Pay attention to her reactions and just go with it. If it doesn't lead to a conversation right there and then, you've at least broken the ice for possible interactions later. Don't rush, take the time to get to know her. Don't ask her out until you're sure that you like her and she likes you back! Good luck.
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