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April 30, 2005
Hi Lianne,
I'm confused and don't know what to do. I'm in Southern Cali and have been chatting with a girl in Northern Cali for the last 2 years. When I first chatted with her, we really connected in a way that I didn't think was possible. At the time she had a boyfriend and they broke up 7 months ago, so I've been trying to pursue her. She said she loves me yet wants time for herself before she meets or dates anyone. With that in mind, I've been waiting patiently for her. A few months ago she met a guy from online that is local...and she actually met up with him, went out a few times to go the movies, hang out, study together, etc. She said they are only friends, but I see it as more than that. I'm confused and don't know what to do. Should I believe her when she insists that they are only friends or go on with my life?
- Confused Man
Long distance relationships are very difficult, whether in a serious relationship, engagement, or even marriage. Many times the relationship will fail, and I think this is because people need and crave face-to-face affection and attention. It seems that this girl you are talking to is not interested in having a long-distance relationship. If she is being truthful when she says that she and the other guy are just friends, it could be the plain truth, or it could mean that they are interested in each other but not yet dating. Ask her if she wants to meet up with you and spend some time together, and see what she says. Pay attention to what she says and how she says it, and you should find out your answer right there and then.
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