The Joys of Being Single
When I was asked to write an article about "The Joys of Being Single," the things that came to mind were the most obvious, at least for guys. Leaving the toilet seat up was the first to pop into my head. Not waking up with the covers all on the opposite side of the bed was another.
However, I thought those would not really get at the essence of singleness and the joy thereof. I looked at my single life and tried to figure out why I'm still smiling despite not having found my soul mate. Perhaps it is because I am single that I'm still smiling. No. That couldn't be it. That shouldn't be it. But wait, that is exactly it.
Sure, being single allows me to be spontaneous. I can just hop in a car with friends and drive off to any place at a moment's notice. I can go to another city, see a movie, go out dancing, or just go out for a late night snack. But does that really get at the essence of being single and enjoying it? Here's what I think some of the joys of being single are:
- INDEPENDENCE- Have you ever tried seeing a movie or eating dinner by yourself? Yes, it can be a scary experience but if you can do these things by yourself, you will discover the independence that comes with it. It's all about being comfortable with yourself. And if you see another person eating by themselves, why not ask if they could use some company and make a new friend?
- ADVENTURE - Dates. You can go out on dates and even though you never know if it'll be a good date or a bad date, one thing is certain, the date will be an adventure either way. Going through the "adventures" can be fun. When it isn't a good adventure, at least you will have a good story to tell your friends!
- VENT - You can vent to your friends about the pains of being single. When you aren't single, "venting" can lead to "we need to talk," and we all know how much we hate to hear those words.
- FLIRT - Hey, you are single, right? So, flirting won't get you into too much trouble. Do your flirting now because when you lose your singlehood, so goes your flirting (or at least if you flirt, you'll risk getting slapped upside the head when you aren't single).
- DISCOVERY - Being single allows you the time to figure out who you are. You can be in touch with your own feelings and know yourself well (the better you know yourself FIRST, the better it will be for your future relationships). If you are happy with yourself, you will be in bliss when you give up your single status.
These are just a few of the joys of being single, in my opinion. So live your single days in style: flirt, vent, discover - discover yourself and be happy with yourself. That's how I'm living. And perhaps one day if I follow my own advice, I'll be writing an article about "The Joys of Being Married."